The first trimester of pregnancy is marked by many emotions, some of which can be very conflicting. The hormonal explosion occurring inside of you, along with the apprehension of becoming a mother, can make things with your partner a bit rocky. 

It is important to remember that, during your pregnancy, your libido is determined by a plethora of factors, including your hormones. As paradoxical as it seems, at the same time, progesterone tends to make a woman more lethargic and take away her desire to have sex, the vulva becomes hyper vascularized, which impacts your sex drive positively as it prepares for more vigorous excitement and more intense orgasms. 

That is why, some days, you can’t wait to be in your partner’s arms. Other days, however, just the scent of their perfume is enough to make you nauseous. Or you might become irritated easily with anything they say, even if it’s something intended to please you. It’s not easy to deal with this whirlwind of emotions, but the good news is: it goes away. In the meantime, to ensure your relationship survives this period unscathed, it is crucial to take certain measures. 

The first rule of thumb is to always maintain an open dialogue with your partner. Dialogue and honest conversation is the key to any relationship and even more so during a pregnancy. After all, your partner doesn’t have the power to guess what you desire nor what you expect them to do. Share your feelings and ask for help during this period of extreme vulnerability. Believe it or not, your partner is just as scared as you are with the idea of having to care for another human being. In fact, this phase requires the couple to stay very united as the pregnancy is not a special moment reserved solely for the mother. 

5 tips on how to save your relationship from strong emotions

  • Stimulate the connection between the father and the child, which is just as fundamental for the fetus as it is for the newborn. Have your partner speak to your baby bump, caress it, and feel the changes. All of this ensures the baby feels loved, desired, and respected.
  • The enthusiasm with the arrival of the baby – buying baby clothes, setting up the baby’s room, picking furniture – typically makes future mothers, especially women who already have a controlling temperament, want to take full control of the situation. It’s important that decisions be made together in order to make the father feel included in the process of “nesting” or preparing for the baby’s arrival. Think about it this way: men cannot carry children for nine months inside them, nor can they breastfeed them, so they should be allowed to do anything they can do to help out and connect.
  • Remember: men also experience feelings of happiness, sadness, anguish, fear, and have their fantasies. Even though they have characteristics and intensities different than those you experience, they are still genuine and relevant feelings.
  • Whenever you feel like you’re in a bad mood or just not in the mood to talk, explain your feelings calmly to your partner. Psychology shows everyone tends to project their problems and frustrations onto those closest to them, specifically because they give us the most significant feelings of safety and intimacy.
  • Worth highlighting: invest in open dialogue, always. It is a tool capable of powerful transformations.